Judgement Day

In this dating odessey from listening to some friends/associates ... I've noticed some things ....
A lot of people have a lot of requirements for a mate ....
gotta look this way ....
can't be too big ....
has to dress a certain way ....
can't be too short ..
cant' be too tall ....
must have good credit....
can't have too many kids ...
can't have any multiple kids by multiple mothers/fathers ....
hell... some would prefer that their potential partner have no kids ....
must not have a criminal record ....
must not have any 'drama' in their life ...
must make a certain amount of money ....
must have a certain lifestyle .....
blah, blah, blah ....

But at our age ... I'm wondering ... where are you going to find someone without any of these issues....? LOL
We are so quick to have a multitude of things that goes on our 'wish list' ... and although I'm not knocking someone's ideal mate ...(cuz we all got to have aspirations) ... I'm wondering ......

What if you found a woman that treated you like the King that you are ... What if she made you feel absolutely wonderful ... loved everything about you .... even the unlovable stuff ... but she has 3 kids by 3 different men ?..... and her credit sucked?

What if you found that man that treated you like a WOMAN ... knew how to make your heart go pitterpatter....I mean he literally "knocks you off your feet", HOWEVER ... he did some things in the past and has a criminal record? Or he works at the car repair shop around the corner?


I often think that we limit ourselves.... the sister making that good 5 figures, will barely give the brother with a checkered past a 2nd glance .... nevermind that he's on the straight and narrow NOW ... but did some stupid things in his youth ...( that DOES happen, more often than we'd like to beleive )
Or Brother Man who's doing the damn thang .... he probably won't consider a future with the sister who has 3 kids and poor credit .... nevermind that she 's doing the damn thing herself...BY herself ... just that she has more, that she HAS to do ... ( that DOES happen too )

AND we ain't even talking about DRAMA .... that's a deal breaker for 90% of the dating population ... not taking into account that just about 98% of us have some type of drama in our lives ... maybe not on a regular ... but it does have it's way of rearing it's ugly head at the most inopportune time .... LOL....
(you've restricted your own dating pool)
Can't people change?
Why not look at someone for what they are attempting to accomplish NOW ... not the choices that they made in the past?.... Everyone has made f'd (s'cuse me,just keepin it real) up choices ...some with far more awful consequences than others ... but we've all done it ...
So ... I guess the Question is ....
' At what point does someone's past stop dictating your future?